1. When a man gives his opinion, he’s a man. When a woman gives her opinion, she’s a bitch.
2. I hate to hear you talk about all women as if they were fine ladies instead of rational creatures. None of us want to be in calm waters all our lives.
3. As long as she thinks of a man, nobody objects to a woman thinking.
4. Wherever you find a great man, you will find a great mother or a great wife standing behind him — or so they used to say. It would be interesting to know how many great women have had great fathers and husbands behind them.
5. Wherever you find a great man, you will find a great mother or a great wife standing behind him — or so they used to say. It would be interesting to know how many great women have had great fathers and husbands behind them.
6. I imagine hell like this: Italian punctuality, German humour and English wine.
7. Once you label me you negate me.
8. Do you really believe … that everything historians tell us about men – or about women – is actually true? You ought to consider the fact that these histories have been written by men, who never tell the truth except by accident.
9. I don’t fit into any stereotypes. And I like myself that way.
10. If men could see us as we really are, they would be a little amazed; but the cleverest, the acutest men are often under an illusion about women: they do not read them in a true light: they misapprehend them, both for good and evil: their good woman is a queer thing, half doll, half angel; their bad woman almost always a fiend.
11. Why do boys say someone acts like a girl as if it were an insult?
12. Anything may happen when womanhood has ceased to be a protected occupation.
13. Taught from their infancy that beauty is woman’s sceptre, the mind shapes itself to the body, and roaming round its gilt cage, only seeks to adorn its prison.
14. She was heartily ashamed of her ignorance – a misplaced shame. Where people wish to attach, they should always be ignorant. To come with a well−informed mind is to come with an inability of administering to the vanity of others, which a sensible person would always wish to avoid. A woman especially, if she have the misfortune of knowing anything, should conceal it as well as she can.
15. I think fitting in is highly overrated. I’d rather just fit out… Fitting out means being who you are, even when people insist that you have to change. Fitting out means taking up space, not apologizing for yourself, and not agreeing with those who seek to label you with stereotypes.
16. The rule seemed to be that a great woman must either die unwed … or find a still greater man to marry her. … The great man, on the other hand, could marry where he liked, not being restricted to great women; indeed, it was often found sweet and commendable in him to choose a woman of no sort of greatness at all.
17. I think people would live a bit longer if they didn’t know how old they were. Age puts restrictions on things.
18. Does a rake deserve to possess anything of worth, since he chases everything in skirts and then imagines he can successfully hide his shame by slandering [women in general]?
19. Was it love or wasn’t it that she felt for Carol? And how absurd it was that she didn’t even know. She had heard about girls falling in love, and she knew what kind of people they were and what they looked like. Neither she nor Carol looked like that. Yet the way she felt about Carol passed all the tests for love and fitted all the descriptions.
20. There is no deception on the part of the woman, where a man bewilders himself: if he deludes his own wits, I can certainly acquit the women. Whatever man allows his mind to dwell upon the imprint his imagination has foolishly taken of women, is fanning the flames within himself — and, since the woman knows nothing about it, she is not to blame. For if a man incites himself to drown, and will not restrain himself, it is not the water’s fault.
21. In fact, there is perhaps only one human being in a thousand who is passionately interested in his job for the job’s sake. The difference is that if that one person in a thousand is a man, we say, simply, that he is passionately keen on his job; if she is a woman, we say she is a freak.
22. What we ask is to be human individuals, however peculiar and unexpected. It is no good saying: “You are a little girl and therefore you ought to like dolls”; if the answer is, “But I don’t,” there is no more to be said.
23. We are much too much inclined in these days to divide people into permanent categories, forgetting that a category only exists for its special purpose and must be forgotten as soon as that purpose is served.
24. It is time to effect a revolution in female manners – time to restore to them their lost dignity – and make them, as a part of the human species, labour by reforming themselves to reform the world. It is time to separate unchangeable morals from local manners.
25. Men have sacrificed and crippled themselves physically and emotionally to feed, house, and protect women and children. None of their pain or achievement is registered in feminist rhetoric, which portrays men as oppressive and callous exploiters.
26. Let’s invite one another in. Maybe then we can begin to fear less, to make fewer wrong assumptions, to let go of the biases and stereotypes that unnecessarily divide us. Maybe we can better embrace the ways we are the same. It’s not about being perfect. It’s not about where you get yourself in the end. There’s power in allowing yourself to be known and heard, in owning your unique story, in using your authentic voice. And there’s grace in being willing to know and hear others. This, for me, is how we become.
27. The advantages of natural folly in a beautiful girl have been already set forth by the capital pen of a sister author; and to her treatment of the subject I will only add, in justice to men, that though to the larger and more trifling part of the sex, imbecility in females is a great enhancement of their personal charms, there is a portion of them too reasonable and too well informed themselves to desire anything more in woman than ignorance.
28. Until the lion learns how to write, every story will glorify the hunter.
29. God bids you not to commit lechery, that is, not to have sex with any woman except your wife. You ask of her that she should not have sex with anyone except you — yet you are not willing to observe the same restraint in return. Where you ought to be ahead of your wife in virtue, you collapse under the onset of lechery. … Complaints are always being made about men’s lechery, yet wives do not dare to find fault with their husbands for it. Male lechery is so brazen and so habitual that it is now sanctioned [= permitted], to the extent that men tell their wives that lechery and adultery are legitimate for men but not for women.
30. Sexual distortions carry strong undertones of prejudice—sexism, racism and homophobia—that rob individuals of their individuality. Common stereotypes include “men are all dogs,” “women are less interested in sex,” “gays are promiscuous,” certain races are frigid or hung, and certain sex acts are indulgent, effeminate, or immoral. Other distortions clearly function as tools of organizations or of religious or political figures to shape public opinion through dogma and to control their followers’ lives.
31. A woman should be like water, able to flow over and around anything.
32. Is it possible to say “It was a beautiful morning at the end of November” without feeling like Snoopy?
33. … unfools of unbeing … means quite clearly people who are too stereotyped to be eccentric – people who are too dead spiritually to exist at all and who call alive individual fools
34. You know what America is-they’re all like spoiled children. Anything goes, isn’t that what they say?
35. There’s a tremendous need to implode the myths of mental illness, to put a face on it, to show people that a diagnosis does not have to lead to a painful and oblique life….We who struggle with these disorders can lead full, happy, productive lives, if we have the right resources.
36. A stereotype is not a stereotype if it’s true.
37. When I decided I was a boy, I realized that if I wanted to pass, I’d have to learn to walk differently, talk differently, dress differently, basically act differently than I did as a girl. But why did we need to act at all?
38. The way to peace is acceptance.
39. Break the stereotype and make a landmark.
40. With the ever-purifying intention of justice and equality, we must keep walking – hard though it may be, we must keep walking, not to stop, till we either instill equality in the lives of at least a few, or we die trying.
41. She smiled, took my hand, and led me upstairs to her bedroom. An elderly cat with gray curly fur used a set of cat stairs to join us on the bed.
42. …The need to situate someone inside his or her ethnicity and the frustration that comes when it can’t be easily done
43. If we don’t sacrifice our selfishness at the altar of harmony, we’ll have to sacrifice tranquility of our children at the altar of segregation.
44. Does my existence constantly cause cognitive dissonance in you?
45. Boxes are for objects, not humans.
46. Outgroups mocking the ingroup is a weapon of the weak, lessening the sting of subordination. But when an ingroup mocks an outgroup, it solidifies negative stereotypes and reifies the hierarchy.
47. If we don’t foster the courage to speak up and act against discrimination now, then the fall of the entire human civilization is ensured.
48. Seems like it’s hard for an Asian bull dike with pink hair and a southern accent to fit in anywhere.
49. Staying within the fictional confinements of race and other stereotypical clichés keep us imprisoned. Individuality unearths life’s true gems.
50. Those with the greatest minds do not live within the limitations of man-made stereotypes.
51. There is no such thing as a woman who doesn’t work. There is only a woman who isn’t paid for her work.
52. Stereotypes could be straitjackening our flexible, plastic brains. So, yes, challenging them does matter.
53. You think you know this story. You do not.
54. Somewhere in the distance a wolf could be howling, but he decides not to. This particular wolf is by nature quiet and doesn’t wish to blindly conform to stereotype.
55. I was going to look like one of the sweet little white girls who were everybody’s dream of what was right with the world.
56. Maturity is when you let your inner child speak and your adult self listen without any bondages
57. There is not much difference between a person drunk on alcohol and a person drunk on biases. Both do things, that they wouldn’t do, had they not been under the influence.
58. Keep your differences if you must, but never let them be the cause of hatred and differentiation.
59. Differences in opinion are no reason for hatred, as long as someone’s opinion is not aiding in the creation of differences and hatred in the world.
60. ʺThey are all the same!ʺ Is the cruelest
gallows humankind ever built. – On Stereotypes and Sweeping